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Not giving your best and what stops you?

We often hear the expressions, “I did not really give it my best shot”…”I could have done better”, or similar. There are a number of points to differentiate, we often hear people say, “I just felt a bit off today”…”I could not get going”.

A part of the brain called the hypothalamus controls our circadian rhythm…Our energy levels, and how we feel throughout the day. We can help with this in terms of sleep, diet and fluid intake…Some days, we can just have a bad day…It’s that simple.

Imagine an Olympic Athlete, with one shot at glory every four years…Fully trained, fully prepared both mentally & physically…Imagine their off day being that one day of destiny! We can however minimize these chances of an “off day”.

When we create powerful goals for ourselves, we need to make sure that they are within our own control and that they provide the motivation to spur us on…They should be “towards goals” and not “away from goals”. An example of the latter is similar to…”I must get that document finished by Friday or I will be in trouble!”

Our self-talk plays a big part -how we think about ourselves and the mental images that we have. We can change our thinking and this has a massive part if we are truly always going to give of our best.

Often we focus on a goal and when complete, we stop. Finished…What now? We can always do more! I have a strong involvement within athletics and regularly see quality athletes strive for the finish line, immediately collapsing. Had the finish line been twenty metres further, they would easily have made it! The point being that the focus was on the line!

As an inventor, Edison made 1,000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the light bulb. When a reporter asked, “How did it feel to fail 1,000 times?” Edison replied, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”

Often we give up too soon- we then regret this once the dust has settled. This only creates a spiral of negativity within our own self talk, we beat ourselves up! Another worry is that “giving up” can be habit forming. Not what any of us want?

Create those powerful goals and use affirmations daily…Words that drive you on. Surround yourselves with positive people and read books that really create some “wow” within you! Yes you can!!

Please email info@solution-focused.co.uk, if you want to learn more about the “how”.

“It always seems impossible until it’s done”.
Nelson Mandela